“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
These are great words, attributed to a special lady. Do you believe this or do you frequently allow your self-image to be colored by the world around you? Are you aware of your own truth and goodness? Do you realize that what you think of yourself, good or bad, is always more important than what others think of you?
I truly believe that we all are born with a healthy dose of self-esteem. In our early years, however, it often begins to be chiseled away by normal childhood experiences. Dysfunctional parents, as well as the well-intended ones, contribute to this in addition to most school systems. During teenage years the desire to conform takes us a step further away from knowing and appreciating our true selves.
If negativity and self-doubt are allowed to gain a solid foothold, this snowballs until we are old enough to reflect back on our life and wonder what went wrong. Why am I not happy? Why do I always try harder to please others than myself? When will there be time for me?
If you find this happening, take a moment to reflect on your own self-worth. First of all, no one is “better” than anyone else. We are all different, but equal as human beings. What are your special gifts and talents? What do you like best about yourself? What are you doing when you are truly happy?
Most importantly, you don’t have to own anyone else’s opinion of “you.” What they think of you, is not your business; it’s theirs. Mind you own and appreciate yourself.
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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I couldn’t agree more. It took me a long time to understand that the only control I had was over my own behaviour and opinions, not any one else’s. Now if I come across issues with other people I look first at myself to see if I could alter my own approach. If not, then there isn’t anything I can do and – to put it bluntly – it’s not my problem.
Great post.
Thanks, Cat! I’m really glad to hear that you’ve gotten to this point. As a writer, I think we have to learn this to survive! 🙂
It’s taken me a long time to figure all that out, let’s just say I’m free from the self imposed chains I allowed to be where they were. You are on target and have always shared your love of helping people with me. I know I’m further along for having in in my life.
Thank you
Shirlee
Freedom feels good, doesn’t it? Thank you for your kind words, Shirlee.
My thoughts are similar to those already expressed. I, too, took a long time figuring this out. I still backslide occasionally, but that happens less and less these days, and I don’t stay there long.
Wonderful post, Shirley. 🙂
I think it’s easy to backside especially if we are caught off guard by another’s thoughtless remark. Glad to hear you backslide less often; it’s the same for me. 🙂 Thanks for your comments, Robin.
This is really important to know – excellent post Shirley!
Thanks so much, Meg!
Wonderful post. This is something that everyone should hear. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks so much for your comment! 🙂